Toxic Relationships
Energy Sapper – Toxic Relationships
Welcome back to our Energy Sappers series! Today, we’re diving into a big one: toxic relationships. Few things drain our energy faster than these vitality vampires.
Trapped in a toxic relationship
So, What Exactly is a Toxic Relationship?
A toxic relationship is one where you feel more drained than uplifted. It could be due to someone’s controlling behaviour, disrespect, dishonesty, or just plain negativity. Instead of feeling supported, you’re left feeling... well, awful.
Signs You Might Be in a Toxic Relationship
Here's what to look out for:
Excessive Jealousy – It’s flattering until it’s not.
Manipulation Tactics – You know, those “If you loved me, you’d…” ultimatums.
Disrespect – Belittling, talking over you, or disregarding your opinions.
Dishonesty – Lies, half-truths, and secrets.
Criticism – When "constructive feedback" feels more like demolition.
Physical Abuse – Absolutely never okay.
How Toxic Relationships Sap Your Health
Toxic relationships don’t just chip away at our mental health; they also wear on our bodies. Studies show the impact of chronic stress from these relationships can lead to high blood pressure, heart disease, and a heap of emotional fallout. They leave you feeling unhappy, anxious, and possibly even questioning your self-worth.
How to Cope with Toxic Relationships
Here's a shortlist of ways to regain your peace and energy:
Reevaluate Your Relationships – Not every relationship is worth the struggle.
Limit Interaction – Sometimes you can’t cut them out completely, but you can limit their access to your energy.
Cut the Cord – When possible, it’s okay to say goodbye.
If cutting them off completely isn’t possible—like in cases with family or coworkers—then it's time to get creative. You’ll need to find ways to minimize their effect on you.
Self-Check: Questions to Ask About Your Relationships
Sometimes it’s hard to know when a relationship has gone sour. These questions can help:
Is this relationship worth the effort?
Do I feel good about myself with this person?
Do I like who I am when I’m around them?
Do they bring out my best, or my stress?
Do I trust them?
Do we share values?
Am I receiving as much as I’m giving?
Can I share my feelings freely?
Moving Forward
If you've realized the relationship is not serving you well, it’s time to think about next steps:
Limit Contact – Protect your peace and energy.
Have an Honest Conversation – Sometimes a conversation can clear up misunderstandings or improve the relationship.
Write It Out – A letter can be a powerful tool to communicate your feelings.
Seek Support – Friends, family, or even a professional counsellor can provide valuable perspective and help.
Remember, You Deserve Respect and Care
At the end of the day, you are worthy of relationships that make you feel valued, loved, and respected. Set those boundaries, protect your energy, and make room for the people who bring joy, positivity, and respect into your life.
Let’s keep those energy sappers at bay, one relationship at a time!